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AFFETTIVITÀ E SESSUALITÀ GAY

Questo post mira a puntualizzare il rapporto tra affettività e sessualità nelle persone omosessuali. Quanto segue è un primo tentativo di sintetizzare ciò che emerge dall’esperienza di Progetto Gay and thus basically refers to non-declared gay.

first try, even with the limitations that implies any language, to clarify what you mean by the terms of affectivity and sexuality. I will not give any definition to terms that are themselves somewhat undefinable, but only intend to specify in what way I will use these terms below.

affectivity

With the word I mean the ball deep emotions of relationships "Primary" that is those relationships that are not instrumental for other purposes and are in themselves the reason for their power rewarding. In other words, I mean those relationships that are built and maintained spontaneously and that are rewarding the very fact that they exist. The presence of an important emotional relationship, often are not detected while that relationship is in place but when that relationship breaks down, through a sense of loss, of emptiness and dissatisfaction. The lack of a loving relationship produces the feeling of loneliness. At the most loving relationships do not usually assign a particular value because they do not stand out in the horizon of the subject but are the necessary substrate of his emotional stability. The reports provide essential emotional and guarantee tranquility of a person, if any, are taken for granted, when they fail if they clearly perceive its importance.

SEXUALITY

The word sexuality I refer to everything that directly or indirectly leads to sexual arousal, which is linked to the physiology of sexuality, all ' erection, ejaculation, erotic dreams, masturbation and sexuality of the couple. Sexuality is clearly perceived by the subject as something specific and clearly characterized with respect to affection. While the importance and weight of the stabilizing emotional relationships are often not experienced or are significantly undervalued the significance and weight of sexuality are often overstated and put into one relationship with the direct and exclusive feel good or bad.

light of those definitions of the two concepts of affection and sexuality, one easily understands that this is related but different phenomena.

the affective relations within familiari e le amicizie in modo e grado molto vario. Nella sfera sessuale rientra tutto ciò che ha in modo diretto o indiretto per il soggetto un significato in termini di fisiologia sessuale. I due insiemi sono diversi, la sessualità non è un sottoinsieme dell’affettività né l’affettività è un sottoinsieme della sessualità. Esistono dimensioni affettive essenziali, importantissime nell’equilibrio di una persona, che nulla hanno a che vedere con la sessualità ed esistono forme di sessualità in cui manca una vera base affettiva.

Partiamo dall’analisi dell’affettività adolescenziale. Durante l’adolescenza, quando si risveglia la sessualità, quasi tutta l’attenzione dei ragazzi è concentrata sulla sessualità e gli aspetti affettivi della relazionalità sono in genere poco sottolineati ma ciò nonostante sono essenziali. Consideriamo in particolare il periodo critico delle scuole medie, il vero momento di definizione della sessualità di un ragazzo. Ad undici, dodici anni un ragazzo non ha e non può avere un’idea precisa del mondo adulto che avverte ancora come lontano da sé, non può avere una vera autonomia di decisione o di scelta perché manca di riferimenti essenziali che imparerà a conoscere via via negli anni, ha quindi bisogno di “affidarsi” ad altri, di creare mechanisms that will enable them reassurance and the conquest of degrees of freedom gradually larger. The relationship with parents is, at this point, fundamental and more important, in terms of emotional stabilization of the boys, at least warned. The key element of the relationship with parents is manifested in their presence is not oppressive. When the presence of a parent gets heavy its stabilizing role and the relationship is less likely to become confrontational. Typical is the case for invasion of privacy of a child by the parents. It is important that all teens actually talk with their parents but know that if necessary it could and would hear properly. La difficoltà del mestiere di genitore nei confronti di figli adolescenti sta proprio nel mantenere un equilibrio adeguato all’età dei figli che permetta loro di sviluppare una progressiva autonomia senza il rischio che si sentano abbandonati a se stessi.

Al tempo delle scuole medie c’è anche un altro elemento fondamentale nelle determinazione dell’equilibrio affettivo di un ragazzo ed è il gruppo dei pari, degli amici, dei compagni di scuola o di giochi. L’inserimento sociale nel gruppo, a questa età, non è analogo a quello degli adulti che si incontrano in situazioni sociali come il lavoro ma ha una intrinseca e important affective valence. The transmission of values \u200b\u200band codes of conduct occurs very often through the peer group. Here should be made a major emphasis. During the years of high school when you define the orientation of adult sexuality, topics that relate to sexuality are rarely the subject of confrontation between a boy and the parents and the transmission of values \u200b\u200band behavior patterns takes place on these issues in almost exclusively through the peer group. Basically the first systematic use of self as a sexual person is almost always in the peer group.

Now let's apply As said in the case of a boy of 11, 12 or 13 years that begins to feel his homosexuality. Beyond the definition of any kind, warns that the way that parents relate to sexuality is exclusively heterosexual, and that even when parents do talk about homosexuals identifying homosexuality as an illness if not just as a vice. This fact puts a young boy in serious trouble, the bewildering, provide a distorted perception of themselves and feel guilty, the boy realizes that not only could not speak, however, the parents of what is happening to him but he understands that opinion of parents on what he is is actually negative. Hence the feeling of loneliness, isolation, rather than open conflict, which manifests itself more clearly over the years. A speech that is also substantially similar to the peer group against which there can be a substantial input, given the weight that the discovery of sexuality at that age in the cement group. This is also here a sense of isolation and loneliness. The formal sex education, or rather the basic elements of sexuality are presented by the school for more than exclusively heterosexual, and this only complicates things. But not enough, because the peer group often becomes able to conduct truly aggressive towards the guys that do not align. Bullying is a form of heavy violence that turns the peer group in real persecutor of young homosexuals. Talking on msn with many gay guys I could see how homophobic bullying is frequent and violent and how much damage can produce.

In conclusion, the relationship with parents and the relationship with the peer group, who are the children of heterosexual relationships and deeply emotional core stabilizers, for gay guys become a source of despair and loneliness . I must stress that gay guys very often consider the period of the school as the worst and most traumatic growth.

as the impact of the gay boys at the time of middle school are significant, first, the tendency to socialize is reduced significantly, the boys tend to isolate themselves and withdraw into themselves, But there are consequences specifically related to sexuality. Many gay guys come to the use of pornography to masturbation finalized before age 14 and templates provided by pornography inevitably become the basis of their sex education, sexuality education in which the space for the direct affection to another guy is practically non-existent .

Typically there is a net improvement in the situation with the transition to high school where bullying tends to disappear. Between 14 and 15 years are beginning to develop friendships love, not always shared but experienced by gay guys with very strong emotional and sentimental, often these friendships are real forms of falling in love in which sexuality has a very significant weight. The sentimental value of these friendships stabilizing love is great, at least at first, but eventually, frustration can come to prevail because these relations are highly asymmetric. At this stage si innesta, dopo la presa di coscienza e l’accettazione del proprio essere gay, l’idea del coming out ristretto ossia del dire ad uno i più amici fidati di essere gay. Il problema del coming out è l’espressione di una ricerca di stabilità affettiva all’interno di un gruppo di amici che sanno e che accettano e con i quali si può essere se stessi. Spesso il coming out diretto verso un amico speciale è nella sostanza una dichiarazione d’amore dalla quale ci si aspetta una risposta che però di norma non arriva nei termini attesi e questo comporta un ulteriore senso di frustrazione. Non è raro che dopo un coming out le cose non solo non migliorino ma si complichino addirittura. Resta tuttavia che l’investimento affective on friendships, more or less sexualized, by gay guys is significant, the relationship with parents is rather formal and begins to come to light the problem of family coming out. In most cases the children do not get to come out that family remains a minority phenomenon, limited to favorable environmental conditions.

With the passing of the age the problem of conflict or misunderstanding on the part of parents is perceived as less urgent as the need arose to create their own emotional world through friendship, this time with other gay guys. However, research of gay friends is often confused with the gay guys looking for a boy or a partner of the couple. The models resulting from pornography and the gay context visible emphasize the meaning of sexuality and tend to devalue the affective dimension and another element involved here is typical of many young gay and that is the sexualization of affect. The two areas of friendship and love tend to overlap, and particularly the emotional needs are experienced as sexual needs, the most important friendships tend to sexualize and transformed in relationships on a seemingly weak or sexual orientation. Very often, the strength and weakness, and at the same time, I would say, especially the fluidity of relationships tra gay è dovuta proprio a questa sessualizzazione dell’affettività. Un rapporto tra due ragazzi gay parte come un rapporto basato sulla sessualità ma col passare del tempo, in genere in termini brevi, la spinta sessuale in senso stretto si esaurisce e subentra una relazione affettiva forte di tipo amichevole che però talvolta mantiene significati e sbocchi anche sessuali, ma in cui la sessualità non è avvertita come l’elemento primario. In qualche caso i rapporti costruiti su queste basi si sciolgono proprio per il venire meno dello spinta specificamente sessuale ma in genere si mantengono perché sono una risposta concreta ad un bisogno affettivo profondo. I due ragazzi parlano chiaro tra loro, non si giurano amore eterno, are aware that their relationship will be lost, at least on the sexual level, if one of them will really convincing alternatives but they are also aware that the emotional relationship between them "probably" will not fail. The boys who live with sexualization of affect marital relationships go well together, they feel deeply uncomfortable in the name of sexual exclusivity, who understand it can not guarantee in advance, try to leave each other, humanly estimate their friend, I love him deeply even if over time you realize not to be more or were never to be sexually fall in love with him. Questi rapporti tra ragazzi gay sono di fatto molto più frequenti e molto più stabili di quanto si crede, proprio perché hanno alla base esigenze affettive profonde.

Va detto che la sessualizzazione dell’affettività realizza nella sostanza l’effetto stabilizzante che è tipico delle relazioni affettive anche se lascia una almeno parziale insoddisfazione sul piano sessuale. Perché possa realizzarsi comunque una forma di sessualizzazione dell’affettività in un rapporto tra due ragazzi, tra di loro deve comunque esserci una compatibilità e un’intesa anche sessuale, in caso contrario la cosa non partirebbe neppure. The degree of compatibility and mutual sexual interest may be varied, if sexual exclusivity is such that the torque is actually seen as a guarantee and not as a limitation, then the relationship was founded on good basics and it is not more than a sexualisation of affect in which sexuality is marginal and not entirely satisfactory, but a true love relationship that combines mutual sexual attraction and strong with a deep emotional dimension, in practice the dream of any gay guy. In this case you can not even talk about the sexualization of affection but you should talk about the original fusion of sexuality and affectivity.

La sessualizzazione dei rapporti affettivi è un meccanismo che agisce tra ragazzi che hanno comunque costruito un rapporto di amicizia così importante da potersi trasformare in un rapporto di coppia, eventualità che però non è sempre realizzata. Capita spesso che, nonostante ripetuti tentativi di creare rapporti affettivi con altri ragazzi gay, non si riseca effettivamente ad istaurare rapporti veramente profondi e, con l’andare del tempo la situazione può divenire decisamente frustrante. In genere chi vive queste frustrazioni è solito attribuirle alla mancanza di un ragazzo, ossia al non vivere una relazione di coppia ma in realtà the lack of a couple's relationship difficult to produce feelings of deep frustration in children who have a satisfying love life, that is, children whose lives are stabilized by the presence of important emotional relationships in the family or friends. In these situations the absence of a partner is compensated by other rewards. However, when the emotional life is very impoverished, when the phone only formal friendships made, the boys are especially prone to perceive a sense of loneliness that sometimes verges on the limit forms of depression. In actual situations there is often establishes lack the deliberate attempt to build a relationship to escape loneliness, but in situations like the attempt turns into a difficult relationship, because the base is lacking an emotional dimension of true friendship, that is true of emotions that can afford to live at least partly a sexual dimension. In practice the problem is identified in the difficulty of making a living as a couple and you leave out the emotional substratum. In these situations rather than seek a partner couples should try to create a world of true friends and not just gay. The stabilization arising from a satisfying love life can also live a serene sexuality.

I would now like to dedicate a reflection a comprendere perché tanti ragazzi, ma anche tante persone che non sono più né ventenni di trentenni, apprezzano Progetto Gay. La prima spinta che porta le persone ai siti di Progetto Gay tramite i motori di ricerca e legata al cercare di capire come gli altri vivono l’essere gay, ma se la motivazione fosse effettivamente solo informativa l’interesse verrebbe meno in periodi relativamente brevi. In realtà, pur rimanendo il contatto personale diretto un elemento importantissimo dei rapporti affettivi, la rete può offrire delle possibilità reali di creare rapporti sensati e addirittura profondi con altri ragazzi certamente gay, cosa che nella vita reale non è affatto facile, Progetto Gay è in buona sostanza un centro aggregation, a square where people meet the media and we know each other. A forum and chat do not belong to a virtual dimension, are not movies, but the means of communication between real people and this way you can build authentic emotional relationships with other people. In essence, the project promotes the creation of relationships and greatly reduces the sense of loneliness that many gays still feel today, and that gays of my generation was a kind of inescapable destiny. Barbara has started on a discussion forum on progettogaymania playfully assuming that the project will create real dependencies. I call on all people who attend the forum and chat and think how they would feel if for any reason Progetto Gay sparisse definitivamente dalla rete da un girono all’altro. Francamente penso che se ne sentirebbe la mancanza proprio perché alla fine scrivere sul forum e chiacchierare con degli amici gay seri in chat non è una cosa neutra come leggere un’enciclopedia ma ha realmente un valore affettivo.

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SESSUALITÀ GAY E SCOPERTA TARDIVA DELLA MASTURBAZIONE

Hello Project,
for going to write this message it took me five months. I discovered gay project for two years and a half, I open it whenever I can, I read the things I feel very close, and in particular my very sure your posts on masturbation were really enlightening for me. I'm almost 22 years are a student who has always tried to look for and commitment to their studies and from that point of view I am satisfied, but it is not the study that you want to talk. I am very embarrassed to write about these things but I want to move forward. For me the discovery of sexuality has come very late in practice after the sixteen perhaps even to seventeen years. Up almost 17 years I was very little, they gave me less and less years than I had. In classic I first took for a boy of the fourth school, in practice I did not have sexual feelings and curiosity even in that sense, I did not think its almost the issue. Then in the summer between the second and third tracks (I went to school a year earlier) have radically changed the physical level. When I came in third in the classic does not even recognize me, I had grown in height but I was also very well made, in fact I said I was just a pretty boy, I grew a beard rasavo very regular every day and so far, so good, but there were many other things, Specifically, I began to feel very strong sexual feelings, went rather frequently in erection without thinking about anything and it embarrassed me a lot. At that time, after a few years ago, I had no realistic idea of \u200b\u200bsexuality and certainly not had any experience of masturbation, it seems absurd but it is. Reading the post from gay project I realized that for an eighteen year old does not know firsthand what it is that masturbation is a very uncommon thing, but to me it happened exactly that. Even after my physical, before the final year of high school, the idea of \u200b\u200bmasturbation is not even touched me. They came nocturnal emissions but ended its all there. I tried to go straight to porn sites, but the thing I was almost completely indifferent, to go on a gay website I even went to the hall of the brain. I was totally isolated, I had absolutely no one with whom to talk about these things and I was still a shyness that this would not have done under any circumstances. In the third I had become a classic guy interesting for my classmates, but to me they were not just any effect, among other things was the only boy in class, but this thing has affected me a lot. In practice I did not have a sexuality, I studied, the girls did not interest me and the boys did not know anything, I had an idea of \u200b\u200bthe gay completely absurd, I thought they were pathological cases decided with sex, among other things, I did not understand even that could be attractive. Started the third classic my life has changed so radically, I had a new male partner, Luca (do not call it that), a handsome boy that I liked right away, not sexually, why not think about these things, but I was sympathetic, often joked to the bench and we started together, we slowly entered the familiar, was to study by myself and I went to his house. I loved him. We studied together and we never talked about sex, many other things but never about sex. He had a lot of attention to me, was cautious, almost hesitant in my comparisons, smiled often, was determined to make me understand that he was there. In practice, it was in love with me. According to him, I should probably figure it out but I did not understand anything, the idea that a guy like Luke, I'm not in any way identified as gay, you could fall in love with me not even touched me and he had the courage to speak out . One day you studied together, I realized that Luke was at least partially erect and I noticed that he was embarrassed by this fact, I told him: "No problem! It happens, "but what happened after I did not expect it at all, he asks:" But you understand why? "The answer:" No. "It took more than a minute to go, then he said: "Why are you ..." I did not understand what he meant and I thought that was telling me that I was erect but even I was not so and I answered. "No, not true!" He took it for a refusal against him and began to feel visibly uncomfortable. I told him: "Sorry, I did not understand, but what you meant?" And he replied: "I love you." At that time I have made a surprised face, then I told him: "Wait, let me understand, you're in love with you me? "From there we talked a lot. I was just at ease, we also talked about sex, I tried to tell him that you really liked him but did not feel for him what he felt, that I had never experienced sexual involvement for him. He wanted to know if I was straight or gay, and I said that in practice for me sex was an unknown planet, there volva believe, was just puzzled, after that day has begun a period of ice between us, no longer come to my house neither wanted to go to him. I tried to explain to him a couple of times but the answer was clear, he did not believe the things I told him frankly and even then I understood the meaning of what he said to me, I missed his presence, but not related to sex. It was then that I started looking for something who spoke of gay people to try to understand what Luke could feel for me but I was looking for a serious matter because if Luke made me a speech as that was not stupid. So I came to gay project. I found things I had not found anywhere else, anything dealing with sexuality in explicit terms but serious things. I read a lot about masturbation in particular, so, to try to get an idea and then I tried to practice thinking about Luke and it worked. I have not tried any of the impressions of dirty or disgusting that I had imagined, in practice I had saved a lot of preconceptions and this Project, thanks to you. Well now I had a clear idea of Luke and what he could to try to put together love and sex did not seem at all a small thing. The next day I took Luke by overcoming its waste, and I said: "I masturbated for the first time in my life last night thinking about you." He still wanted to leave everything to lose but I did realize that I was now able to understand what was going through and that he "probably" I fell in love with him but I need to go step by step. He made me sign to shut up and that we would talk later. We met in the afternoon and told me that they believed what I said. Well the rest you can imagine it, now we've been together two years and would not trade my life with no the world. We have many problems because we have to live in hiding our history. We are doing many projects for the future and I hope can be realized. This mail is a way to say thank you because now I feel if I made it to you.
Hello Project and continues. Publish the news, if you want.

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GAY ITALIANI IN USA TRA BISOGNI AFFETTIVI E DISINIBIZIONE

Hello Project,
am a boy of 20 years, born in the U.S. but I've almost always lived in Italy. I speak English because my parents are American, but in practice until last year I was in the U.S. only for short periods, let's say I'm 90% Italian, I now live in the U.S. west coast, I'm in a residence for students at a large university on the west coast. I started to follow gay project some time ago and I continued in the USA. Who are gay do not even need to say it. I came here for the start of the academic year. First disappointment: I thought I knew well English, one written ok, talked to put me in big trouble. A lesson I understand everything, but when the boys talk to each other using a series of hints that I am only now beginning to goats. When I arrived here I was dreaming of college life, autonomy, do what you like but the second disappointment, I found what I was hoping and sometimes bitterly regret my Italian friends, even those straight. Here I see many gay, no wonder they are very standardized, there are even clubs gay college officials, however, beyond ritualism I see very little. Being gay is halfway between transgressive and snobbish attitude seems more than anything else. I was a celebration of the circle of gay college but it was depressing, while among gay men is all a particular language that was hard to understand, then beer and spirits to no end, all drunk and the party was reduced to this and some performance imitation of sexual abuse by anyone in the audience. Two or three boys accosted me also, a very nice, but so crazy to think that alcohol would also vomited blood. At the gay club, apart from the party, I was there once and I have set foot, is no place for me, too Italian, too type of mentality project gay to appreciate those things. The thing that shocked me the most however is the attitude Bait the boys and their utter lack of inhibition and disinhibition do not speak only to girls but also among them. Sometimes I felt terribly embarrassed and a couple of times I was going to make a fool terrible because they were so loose that I had no doubt that they were gay when they were not at all. We are housed in a large 8-storey building with huge corridors on which overlook the rooms, we all have a single bathroom with a shower but it is not uncommon that some shower does not work and then goes into the room of a friend. Once a guy comes to me and asked me to use the shower, I say yes, stripped naked in front of me and then he goes to the bathroom, no strips in the bathroom as they do in Italy, but in the room in front of me, but not limited to, over the shower naked in the back room, dries and dresses chatting with me, we are friends and know they are gay, you know! But it is not uncommon to see kids who walk naked through the corridors in the early morning after a shower in the room to another. I told my college friends in Italy that certain things would be unthinkable, and they said that there is no problem because we are all children (typical straight answer). I went with a group of friends at a party regular, ie not at a gay party, danced, and perhaps not only, you are secluded with only maybe a girls making out well but there were those who more or less together limonano , they were hugging each other, fondle each other, mimicking alleged gay sexual forms and above all they had absolutely afraid to go gay. That they were not at all I am sure, because I saw them with their girlfriends and sometimes I gave in my room and I was waiting outside, but those same guys I saw them, a little 'shine for the truth, to be Pampering is not just neutral with guys, I'm not talking about sexual matters, but that at least in Italy of tenderness between two guys you would never. I'm on the volleyball team and training (three times per week) are just the best of disinhibition, the nude is obvious that there is, there is also in Italy, but here come to get a saw in public in the shower and everyone laughs. As for me, after an initial period of confusion, I began to get used to these things that I require some self-control but I am sexually attractive but not overwhelming. My friends know that I'm gay and I noticed one thing, that is, that's very nonchalant attitudes who between them do not have them with me, but I do not think this comes from the fact that they know I am gay because my friend with another openly gay behave completely free. What amazes me here is that gays do not try to create an emotional relationship between them as strong as happens in Italy, the approach here is much more tied to the structures gay officers. They know I'm gay, and I think I'm a nice guy, but apart from the very direct approaches have attempted to party with me, say it with me, in serious terms, not anyone has tried. You used to say that "you have to put on the market" otherwise no one will look. In practice for the gay guys I've known here to be gay means to join a gay social life then you may also sexual contacts. Out of those official channels seems that gays do not exist. The fall in love with a boy, love him from boy to man, with no mediation here seems almost non-existent and probably would consider it strange. That is, if I am approaching one of my fellow gay (and there are), and I tried to tell him that I love and I want to be near him, but without going through the official rigmarole gay probably would consider it absurd. I feel that there is another world. I tried to read one of my gay friends to post here some of the gay project forum, or better, since I do not speak Italian translating for them, but the reaction was somewhat perplexed, said to me: "Why you Do all these problems? "and could not understand then and I envied them, but then they were amazed that in Italy you flirt with a guy like you a girl, who speaks of love, here you have as much sexual freedom But I want the boys are not brought at all to a affective view of homosexuality. I found just a guy who told me that after all we are lucky because in Italy there is a more serious view of homosexuality, but he is gay based on a design I think, unfortunately, that does not represent all the views of the average gay Italian. With this guy I have also tried to establish a minimum ratio: evenings alone talking on the beach on weekends, a certain intimacy (not sexual) words seemed to me something very early, but then I realized that he did not like at all and I froze when I said that instead of doing all that rigamarole, if I wanted to have sex with him was enough to say that he was fine, but I told him not cercavo sesso e mi ha guardato come se io fossi del tutto fuori di testa e così la storia è finita. Qui mi manca l’intimità affettiva coi miei amici gay e la possibilità di costruire un rapporto d’amore basato sulla tenerezza reciproca e sul volersi bene. Ho anche pensato che il mio disadattamento possa derivare da altre ragioni e cioè dal fatto che i miei compagni di università sono tutti di livello sociale piuttosto alto, direi nettamente più alto del mio, forse tra ragazzi diciamo così più della classe media le cose potrebbero essere molto più simili a quelle che vedevo in Italia. Adesso metto punto al mio sfogo, la realtà è che mi sento un pesce fuor d’acqua e che mi manca tanto l’Italia. I am gay, but I am a gay Italian, not a gay stars and stripes. A hug.
MK

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Famiglia Catto-Cristia-Pagana

Siori Sior Welcome! This post
we owe it to a new report that we received through the FB page. There it was pointed out that we are nominated on another forum (which are not even aware of their existence, indeed). But as we shove my big pot, here I am all for you.

I read that the user / Admin Bliss72, (I assume it is not a teenager), he feels the need to open a discussion on Wikkapedia and writes: "This Blisspensiero for now: I believe that those who hide anonymity to write bad things on people, just a coward. If we add the fact that these anonymous gentlemen stand as defenders of humanity (and no one asked him ...) believed that they were better than others, I become too cocky and arrogant, and from what I read even a tad bit rude.

One of them also said that the admin of the forum considered, should be honored that people like "them" if they are interested ....

Now, I think that sooner or later will infiltrate even here (if there are already ...), and we will give a warm welcome, as to all other users, and we will make them feel Family, we feel the brotherly love he may lack.

Then we'll see, and try to move on. "

A monte, è evidente che famiglia cattopagana, siccome ancora non era stata presa in considerazione dalla family Wikkapedia, fa i balletti sul filo della ragnatela affinché ci occupassimo un po’ di essa. E chi siamo noi per deludere le aspettative dei uicchini che copiano dai cattolichini il nome di una famosa rivista (che ha addirittura più senso) per darlo al loro umilissimo forum?

Potremmo mai deludere le loro aspettative?

E noi vi abbiamo accontentato, gente!

Monsters are on you too! Applause!

Yes, in fact, we had not focused on your glittery emptiness, but now we dance the macarena with their hands out.

So let's see: the Mr. Bliss72 (age seems to have), complaining of our lack of humility, respect and, above all, it appears, is the failure to close on SILENCE glittery slime, which reads for the web.

And he thinks that'' who is behind the nick to say bad things, is a coward ''.

I, however, I think she does not hide behind a nick per dire cattiverie. E neanche si nasconde dietro un nick per darsi il tono del Guru del forum di niubbi che gestisce. No.  Penso che all'anagrafe la registrarono come Bliss (Nome) 72 (Cognome) figlia di Blenda e Blando,  signori 72. Effettivamente è chiaro che non è un nick, Bliss72.

 Qualcuno potrebbe essere così gentile da mandare a dire alla sig. Bliss72 che il suo nick/nome-di-battesimo è davvero poco interessante per farci un post? Anche un tantino bruttino, a dire il vero, per essere l'admin-co-admin (quello che è) di un forumello. Ello.

Ma io l'ho fatto lo stesso. Orsù mi ringrazi to take it into account, (I read what you wrote, you know).

Now I trust the rest of the family of the hump, that hump sister's daughter was also the hump, you will be calling to complain en masse to the Italian justice system that put me in jail for writing a satirical blog, while our Premier has fun with nice people.

On the defenders of humanity, honestly, I'd have to say.

E 'written in huge letters that do not defend anyone or anything and, above all, here are SUPPOSITORIES Ilaria'. If I hear them strung as a kind of suppositories and what you do not like it, you are free to ignore. Or do you prefer a colonoscopy? And 'that you too are sick of mind, let's face it. And most importantly, let him say.

Ergo, I was not surprised.

However, it is remarkable, Mr. BLISS 7 2, by the supreme leader of CATTO-FAMILY-PAGAN CHRIST, stands immediately strategist Captain Pancake and has suffered ACTION PLAN: accept the troll wikkapediano would like the good shepherd, to pretend to keep it in the family, and LAST him what he deserves! Resume the teaching of Dante, go further and ignore!

Um ... Ms Bliss (name) 72 (last name), look what I'm going to lead to free a reply ... I just enjoy myself behind him, face to face if the comparison does not like ...

And for the record, brotherly love-family-pack of papal brings me to the worst sunburn of the sun in August. I have sensitive skin, that you think? It makes me so much of mobbing (who is not confused with the singer, no?). Mobbing. Can be found on Wikipedia.

Enter the pack, the pack shows gentle and loving, then you devouring the good shepherd.

Again, I prefer a wolf, 'Azzi!

But let's step back.

forumcommunity We go into this forum. Hoping to find a place to begin a process that breaks away from cattolichino-close-to-house from which the adolescent in the grip of hormonal crisis is to remove and even here I find myself?

The image of the Holy Family by Michelangelo! The Doni Tondo! St. Joseph the Misunderstood!

Again, get a punch in the eye. To my eye. The first.

I do a ride in home, leggo: ''Benvenuti utenti, ma soprattutto visitatori e curiosi... Siete arrivati in "Famiglia", ora non lasciatevi spaventare da questa parola, non dovete per forza avere una famiglia per partecipare al forum, la "Famiglia" siamo noi, un gruppo di persone che hanno voglia di confrontarsi, di condividere e di lasciare fuori dalla porta di questa "casa" tutte le verità assolute, i preconcetti, i luoghi comuni.

Bliss, Mohrag e Shubra, insieme a tutta la Famiglia, vi danno il benvenuto!!!''

Oh! La casa di Pony!

Bene, penso, dopo il cristowiccan di Lilithcrispella, I still miss the catechumen-paganpride dell'ammmore family!

A pope boys? One? A hundred? Millions! ARE EVERYWHERE!

dall'intro So I make a picture at all comforting.

I go. I read that there are the days of January features the pagan festivals of the month, well nice, I say, remember the timing of Brother guess. Until I read: - (...) -6 (...) Party Holla, Frigg and Fulla. (now tell me how not to think aldo giacomo and the dynasty of Pdar! Come on, almost like a joke more than a tongue twister!) More ... (...) Baptism of Osiris. Feast of miracles.

not go ahead, laugh too! Baptism of OSIRIS? Day of Miracles? But where are they?

family was pagan or Christian family?

I'm lost! Remi no more than the family! Other than the prodigal son!

This is the family of Mulino Bianco!

Now I will say that Osiris was presented to the temple as a kid and that attended the apostles for a beer with Cernunnus or bad interpretations of the calculations that the pyramids of Giza and Cheops on a straight line from the center of the pyramids to Sirius, confirmed in great detail the sources HISTORICAL-ARCHAEOLOGICAL-phylogenetic Jesus and Osiris ... were the same figure.

As regards MIRACLES , it is clear that this is typical of the recurrences of January incantesimini light of the Little Match Girl if moreva de cold! Typical of modern paganism and witchcraft with pearls of Celtic Italic!

I stop look at all this purple dotted with holy dressed as fairies, and for ability to masochism, step to read the rest of the forum: I want to get an idea of \u200b\u200bthe people we are. And evil.

said than done.

I do not have noobs with as such, let's face it, we have been a bit 'all, even though we had 3, 4, 5 years toh, come on, 10 good, I have it with the purpose of these places and with the admin that should have at least some knowledge of the facts when they make / create / write certain things. But for a deeper reflection on the role that assumes these people, I refer you here.

I find myself once again to imagine a box of chocolates and the users wiccan uicchella hired to write the pills of enlightened knowledge inside the big box of chocolates with a stellosa Winx color at the center.

Becco a sentence in the case of many / all that I find hilarious and I think

this could be the first phrase of magic magical chocolates:

"can be a beginning public ... or it may be only a beginning of a journey that our ... "

while this second:

"what we celebrate is the special energy of the time ... so yes, to whatever religion rests ... is the same thing."

and third do me the favor that you suggested me!

Finally, wandering a little bit more vibrant to test the substance of the place, of course, of course, of course, known that Wikipedia (online encyclopedia) seems to be the most popular source of information. And initiatives. I must say, my compliments. Applause to more applause! A standing ovation for the maturity and seriousness!

I leave you, as my usual, with a quote to reflect, if you will, or by electronic exhilarating moment that I find fitting in light of the facts narrated:

''The number of slaughtered sheep and the shepherds' far exceeds the number of sheep eaten by wolves. So, if someone proposed to be your pastor to save the wolves, think again. " \u202d \u202c \u202d \u202c \u202d \u202c \u202d \u202c \u202d \u202c

caustically not yours,

Atop Belladonna

Note post (or in the rear, as there it seems):

If you are going to read the comments for this article, you will notice the presence of place and inappropriate for someone to nick the Geneva meeting.

Please do not give her the rope to prevent further spam.

Ritengo che si tratti di un Troll.

 

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Sottopassaggio Cristowiccan - Sign of the LilithCROSS

Qualche giorno fa arriva all'attenzione del nostro staff la seguente immagine:

Si tratta, come intuibile, della bacheca di un utente facebook che dichiara orgogliosamente di aver scelto, dopo quello che sembra esser stato un momento di conflitto interiore, di battezzare la propria prole.

Fin qua, diranno i nostri piccoli readers, nothing strange.

One of the contacts respond to the proclamation of baptism was wondering if our protagonist to baptize her daughter.

The question provokes a moment of misunderstanding which is resolved with the explanation of our heroine:
pay Baptism does not exist, he says.
The term in question can only indicate the Christian rite, everyone feels free to draw their own conclusions from that assumption.

guess now the young faces of my young readers perplexed.
Why is this small exchange of words was brought to our attention?

Datemi un secondo di suspance prima di togliere il wicconiglio dal cilindro.
Rullo di ditini sulla tastiera....

ZAN ZAN ZAN ZAAAAAAAAAAAN!

La premurosa, osservante Cristomammina rivelasi essere nientemeno che la paladina delle wicca italiana presso studio aperto: colei che hai dichiarato di essere stata messa da parte a causa della propria FEDE PAGANA, 'admin di un forum che reca la scritta "wicca" ovunque ci sia spazio disponibile.

E' una delle mie eroine preferite.
 

E’ LILITHCRIS!!! *_*

…Lilithcris who publicly claims to be proud to have baptized his daughter.

...

Let's take a moment to digest the news.

So.

Lilithcris We met through the dismal service open study, we have seen it claim to have been set aside because of their choices, but also to have had the invaluable support of his parents, both in the period in which declared Satanist (!!!) and afterwards, when he chose the path of wicca. Because she is one with my head straight.
We then entered its detecting forum the magnitude and the number of subscribers and then dwell with evil laughter, to admire the gimmick of "toll-free number Wiccan" (" a new way to get information about everything and Wicca, paganism, events and meetings will be organized by Wicca Path ") and, in our mind, perhaps now saw her as un'archetipo.

As the absolute rising star of the generation born from stinking of wiccan new age wave that hit our nation in the late nineties.

This new development has displaced.
As we have often been reproached by her and her supporters, NON AVEVAMO CAPITO NULLA di lei e delle sue ragioni.

Quella stella, già non proprio fulgida, che guidava i wiccan fuori dal buio del cristianesimo verso il caldo chiarore del Sentire neopagano, si è rivelata essere... una cometa.

Questa è una cosa che fa riflettere, per cui proviamo a fare i seri per un paio di righe. 

Mettiamo caso che io sia (brr) un quindicenne che da poco ha scoperto, magari grazie a studio aperto, la parola WICCA. Sono sconcertato ed ammaliato dall'idea di una religione organizzata ma priva del concetto di peccato, elettrizzato dalla sensazione di poter cambiare la realtà con il semplice gesto light a candle. I'm excited to be embraced by the assumption of a mother goddess who loves us all beautiful and ugly, that does not despise my flaws and maybe even accept my (hypothetical) latent homosexuality. Find the word
WICCA on google and I choose the third site down, because the word "path" I like to know arcane and rural simultaneously.
Finally, guided by the light and the feeling of Arcanya Lilithcris, I immerse myself in the beauty of this new religion. I approached the Goddess up to glimpse her face veiled by the strong light that radiates e.. e.. fuck. He has a beard. It is called Jesus

We were accused of rubbish people without knowing them and not to constructive criticism. Well, this is mine.
Arcanya Lilithcris sold and spirituality pagan and neo-pagan (I do not think they're the same thing) to an unreliable agent which in turn has sold off on TV as a meat market in a poor neighborhood
I hope I did not realize the evil that made to the many serious people who study and practice so as witchcraft Wicca pre-new age, but the fact is that the image of the Gentiles through them, he lost more dignity.
If we are not Satanists, we girls who call the goddess in the woods in front of a table with candles and mixed fried fish using unintelligible words. We frichettone alternatives that seek to give themselves a voice without being able to hide our lack of preparation.
could be sufficient, but not enough. In choosing to administer a forum should involve a sense of responsibility.
should be implied that the lead users assign admin, learning from him or her through the very structure of the forum, through the proposed topic.
A young wiccan, are confused and need something to lean on, so I find it irresponsible to the choice made by these people.
face of the new developments cristianofila (from lilithcris to lilithcross, like pokemon?) I could say that I find it hypocritical but also accuses me of speaking ill of people who do not know.
It 's true, I rely only on your public image. I rely on the information you give to the network and the Internet is to me that those persons who may choose (poor) to trust you.
The image of a spiritual guide that starts Satanist, Wiccan, and then declares it becomes fair to baptize their baby picture is inconsistent, especially insidious and Hypocrites.
point.

itchy my exclusive property,

Urtica Lyrica

Battry Operated Blanket

CONDIZIONAMENTI SESSUALI GAY

This post is dedicated to the role that sexuality plays in conditioning the relationship between gay guys. The speech will be divided into two parts by examining two different situations:
1) An attempt to implement an abstract model of gay couples
2) A search for balance without preliminary assumptions of model couples

An attempt to implement an abstract model of gay couples

According to the common view, a gay guy can make the most of his sexuality in a relationship when that relationship starts from a strong and mutual sexual attraction. On this basis we assume that it is easier to build a stable emotional relationship, in a sense the emotional needs appear here subordinated to the sexual needs. To be more specific speeches by more immediate, placed here a piece of mail of a 26 year old boy, I'll call Andrea.

"I think that if one makes affect life at the end does not conclude anything and that no decision is worse than ever and I err on the other hand I did not want and I will not stand by and watch the train go by. Project, unless one works hard, since you can not complain. I do things that are half-half whitewash in a tug of war that ended more than I did not want to know more. If you want to be ok, otherwise each in his own way. Well I see it the first time, I was taking a cuddly, so sexy that one so I had never seen. Guys, the rest just dazed. We met quite by chance, I avevo frequentato chat e pure locali, ma lui l’ho conosciuto per caso a una cena di lavoro dell’impresa dove lavoro io. Stava con una ragazza ma non se la filava proprio e allora ho deciso di giocare il tutto per tutto e gli ho detto: “Sei bellissimo!” Mi ha sorriso e mi ha detto: “Pure tu!”. Oh, io non sono mica male, anzi, prima le ragazze non mi mollavano mai (le mollavo sempre io!) ma adesso che qualcuno sa di me trovo pure i ragazzi che mi fanno la corte, ma certi, poveretti, non per vantarmi, ma non mi ci metterei mai. Insomma, lui mi sorride. Ci appartiamo un po’, sai come vanno queste cose, vedi che lui ci sta e ti fai coraggio, ci siamo toccati un po’ (nel senso intimo) and he was all right. I'm just exploded. Then I was single and had never been with a boy, he had made his experiences, but at the end of me I do not give a damn. Well the fact is that I went to him that night and it happened all that could happen, so I was the party that I had not even thought about condoms but he had them. What made me think that it was not a risk that would begin to ease. So, after 15 days I went to live at home. In practice it was just a dream, a boy, or "that guy" all for me. I had a tremendous fear that he might betray me, you could get tired of me but did not seem right. Er a bit 'bigger than me (31 years) and had an enviable position in the company but that he could have anything he wanted he was with me. In short, it's okay for a couple of months, then I start to understand that there is something wrong. Do not want more sex with me. I feel desperate, I beg him but none of it, tells me that he met a girl but I do not want to talk. Him with a girl? It seems to me absurd. One afternoon I said that the company must go out and but the company did not go there. I did not know where he went and did not even know now, but had begun to tell lies and keep me out of her life. Had sex every night, at least initially, at the beginning because I had not said anything, then I asked him how they were things and was very angry, told me that was not the tallow or anybody and that if I was okay I could go well. I did not want to leave, I felt that my dream fell to pieces and do not even understand why. I was at home almost as a challenge. He's face did not throw me out but had started to behave as if I was not there. He came home with his friends who were holding up late at night and I gnawing a lot, then I did not and I most solemnly sent to that country and I left his house. After three weeks I ended up in hospital for a bad accident and he did not even deign to visit me. Nothing! And I was in the hospital knew fine. Here this is a bit 'summary of the story. It's much better to be alone than with someone like that, but I understood it at the end. "

A search for balance without preliminary assumptions of model couples

Too often we take as a model of a relationship between children a gay relationship in which sexuality is a further development, as well as the remote cause on both sides, ie it is assumed that two gay guys are brought to stand together to meet a primary affective-sexual, once verified affective conditions that ensure the reliability, fully realizes the desire of couples of the two. This model, when attractive, in many cases is in fact not applicable because the reasons that push two guys to be together can also be significantly different from a mutual sexual interest, that may arise under the guise of a sex drive and be substance of the requirements of general affective. The affective-sex education for gay men leads them to emphasize the purely sexual as a root cause, if not all of their relationship, in other words, the emphasis is mainly on the sexual dimension and not that affective. The consequence of this trend is a sexualization of affect.
reproduce below an excerpt from an email of a 23 year old boy (I will call later Lorenzo), which clarifies the concept:

"I loved him, that I was fine with him, I was glad when it was, when c 'I felt it was the lack of strong, waiting for his calls to the phone or on msn, I liked when he came to me and we talked a lot, and he took off his shoes and lay on my bed with me and I felt free with him I know that if I needed him he'd do anything for me, it's a nice guy but not my type, some sexual thoughts about him we did it well, after all why not, but not only has never been a but we say that setting up his fantasies of that kind a few while I was there I happened to some other guy maybe more than impossible that I could never have, but it intrigues me the most. I loved him but I do not really feel transported to him sexually. "

The situation is described here (the ratio between the two boys), from the standpoint of the author of the email has a primary matrix of feeling and not typically sex, is, in other words, the typical situation that predisposes to a strong friendship gay. The boy's point of view is summarized as the author of the email:

"For him it's different, it is practically always been different from the beginning, has just the typical way of doing Innamorata for me has so much attention, much respects me, beware of my temper, I cuddle a lot, hugs, kisses, being in physical contact with me, But I see that he slows down, that I understand, you use the brakes because he would take us just to go over but it only does when he thinks that I should want it (maybe not), the rest do not even try, it tells me that I dream, I'm his type, we can not see that when you masturbate thinking about me, who takes my photo below, I feel that is very busy. I'm fine with him also to have sex but it is a different thing to me is fine as a form of affection, he slows down a bit, but I 'I let him decide and try to follow as I can, as I am, but the asymmetry and feel sorry because maybe you could deserve someone better than me. We have been together for more than two years but we can not live, I do not know if it would be better. I love him, do not betray you, I will feel bad I have done all the checks for HIV and it is all right but not only that why do not betray, but that is no one like him they deserve their own. In recent months I have seen so many guys who physically more than I like him but I think it would be better with them than with him, which eventually attract me from the point the sexual and just, while he's different. Certainly not an overwhelming love can feel it is something else, something important, very important for me, but it is another thing. "

The role of sexuality in these relationships is a function of collateral in the sense which guarantees the exclusivity of their loving relationship as a joint report also sexual. This exclusivity is grafted from one part of a relationship almost double expectations and other attempts to more bland, to safeguard their autonomy.

"There is a further problem, he works and I do not, in my opinion is beginning to make plans on the idea of \u200b\u200bbuying a small apartment. Did not mention it explicitly, but I understood some slightest hint that seeks opportunities in the magazines of real estate agencies. When we pass next to a real estate agent will stop and take a look first and did not. I think I do not speak because he is afraid that I may see it as a trap and a little 'is so not because I do not want to be with him but because we would like to be on an equal footing, I would be well in an apartment rent paid at 50%, but living in a home, with all expenses paid by him alone, makes me uneasy. I must be free to leave if by chance with him, I am not well and in that case I would feel bound to say that I could never tell my parents that I'm going to live with him. Honestly I think it might work because living together is not about sex but also of many other things, I do not give up easily, as I have not dropped in the past two years and maybe could go on for many years, but should be together because there is really good, and I now I'm good, and not by force or because I do not have a place where to live. "

In these situations, sexuality ends up acquiring a floor plan size recessive the need not to turn it into routine leads to scatter the occasion and make the sex drive in a form of mutual sexual affection can be more easily shared. These reports have an apparent weakness, but tend to grow stronger over time and become a source of substantially resistant even to situations that could undermine the beginning.

"about three months ago I met through my ex, a guy who is very nice and I really like, let's call him Paul. I can not deny that it has put me in a crisis and not a little. I think Paul is in love with me even though I have not expressed any enthusiasm. The first few times I did not discuss with my boyfriend, I was ashamed a lot, then I told him everything and there I understood the value of my boyfriend, we talked so much and so seriously, even though it was evident that there was no harm in any way tried to get me to weigh his presence and almost tried to put me at ease saying that I feel free because I will love it anyway. Frankly, I understood very well that he was ill and that he stay away from me was a heavy sacrifice, and there I realized how far he likes me. Meanwhile, Paul has just proven to me, I had the temptation but I would just like to give a stab to my boyfriend and I gave up the speeches of Paul. Frankly I had no regret even at the time, then I got back from my boyfriend and I told him I loved him. We made love and was a beautiful thing. Making love with a guy you really want something good is indescribable, is not even a question of sex, think above all to him, to let him know that you love him, to make them understand even through sex and feel that he is happy and then you feel happy too. "

A report like the one described in the email quoted above does not start from a push highly sexual but gradually comes to the conquest of a different affective sexuality, which has the appearance of uncertainty and the robustness of the things we understand from experience the real significance. It is basically to build gradually a sense of a relationship.

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If you want, you can participate in the discussion of this post is open to the Gay Project Forum:

http:/ / progettogayforum.altervista.org / viewtopic.php? f = 23 & t = 1154 & start = 0

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RAGAZZI CHE NON SI MASTURBANO

[Abstract: all the songs in e-mail published in this post have been published on the explicit authorization of the senders, I thank you very much.]

Questo post è dedicato a quei ragazzi che per varie ragioni non hanno mai vissuto l’esperienza della masturbazione. Mi accade talvolta di parlare in chat con ragazzi che non hanno alcuna esperienza della sessualità fisica volontaria ma conoscono le manifestazioni fisiologiche della sessualità esclusivamente attraverso le polluzioni notturne vissute tra l’altro come qualcosa di sconveniente e di sporco. Questi ragazzi manifestano a livello personale una sostanziale indifferenza di fonte alla sessualità fisica e sono indotti a considerarla espressione di un vizio o di un lack of control over themselves. For these children, the distinction between heterosexuality and homosexuality, in fact, is not very significant because upstream lacks a realistic perception of sexuality. It should be noted that often it is not proper for young boys, but young adults between 20 and 30 which seem at first sight completely refractory to sexual stimuli that their peers consider fundamental. Clearly, when these guys try to build relationships with other boys or girls, their theoretical and potentially negative conception of sexuality makes them look strange in the eyes of others, are defined as dreamers far from reality, romantic or less politely come persone fuori dal mondo. Chiaramente l’impossibilità di un dialogo reale su contenuti relativi alla vita sessuale colloca questi ragazzi in una condizione di isolamento e di marginalità. La loro affettività senza riscontri sessuali può essere adatta ad una vita di relazione formale ma impedisce loro di stabilire contati in cui affettività e sessualità siano entrambe presenti in modo essenziale. In genere questi ragazzi non provano imbarazzo a parlare di contenuti sessuali proprio perché per loro si tratta di argomenti del tutto teorici. Alla impossibilità sostanziale di vivere la sessualità fisica in prima persona si associa una dimensione affettiva molto forte, fatta di tenerezza, di richieste di attenzione e di ricerca loving presence of important. Masturbation is considered very negative in terms of vice and the same applies to the couple's sexuality in all its forms. Lacking in substance, apparently, any sexual desire.

What is needed here to reflect on a crucial moment of adolescence is the discovery of masturbation. All too often trivializes the role of masturbation considered a kind of erotic game end in itself, in reality there is no question of an ordinary but the discovery of a desired physical sexuality in relation to a set of sexual fantasies. The association between mental and physical sexuality is passed on through sexual fantasies, masturbation. Sexuality is structured not as a purely physiological phenomenon but as a complex psycho-physiological phenomenon, in which even the appearance of only one sexual fantasy follows a physiological reaction. The size of the sexual pleasure experienced through masturbation, erection and orgasm gives a very strong psychological significance because it connects these things with a projective fantasy directed towards other people. The masturbation fantasies are usually so fundamental and independent of social conditions, beyond the behavior of couples, it is considered gay a guy who masturbates constantly with fantasies about other boys. Masturbation create and consolidate the so-called sexual archetypes that fixing the physical types of guys or girls and a boy for situations that can be highly engaging in sex in adult life. We fell in love with any boy or any girl, but only those that match our archetypes and significantly more for certain situations that are sexually exciting for some are not for others because they do not correspond to their archetypes. Years ago, when it was very difficult for children to access information about sexuality and masturbation was a taboo which was never discussed, the discovery of masturbation avveniva in modo autonomo e casuale nella grande maggioranza dei casi, oggi, con la caduta di molti tabù sessuali e con la diffusione della pornografia anche tra i ragazzi più giovani, la scoperta della masturbazione è molto spesso il risultato di una sperimentazione per imitazione indotta dall’esterno. Resta il fatto che la masturbazione ha certamente un ruolo fondamentale nella strutturazione della sessualità adulta. Aggiungo che, contrariamente a quello che si dice,  la masturbazione non è una realtà esclusivamente o prevalentemente adolescenziale ma accompagna una persona per tutta la vita e per di più convive normalmente con la sessualità di coppia, anzi molte patologie dei rapporti di coppia sono rese evident from the fact that one partner is masturbating with fantasies outside the couple or if the couple is heterosexual, with homosexual fantasies. When there is no perception of sexuality, masturbation is often distorted and reductive, and this fact have consequences not indifferent.

What can prevent a guy to get to the discovery of masturbation? The possible answers to this question are two: first the physical impediments, such as hypersensitivity of the glans, which makes manipulation of the penis very painful and then discourages or impedes del tutto sul nascere qualunque forma di esplorazione sessuale, in secondo luogo le barriere di carattere psicologico fortemente interiorizzate. Va tenuto ben presente che in genere alcuni impedimenti di tipo fisico tendono ad essere meno limitanti con l’andare degli anni perché, ad esempio, l’ipersensibilità del glande diminuisce in genere con l’età e questo comporta che alcuni ragazzi possano arrivare tardivamente alla scoperta della masturbazione. Aggiungo che siccome in genere l’ipersensibilità del glande tende a ridursi molto gradualmente, in questi casi la scoperta della masturbazione non è del tutto senza problemi perché la masturbazione può provocare comunque dolore o richiedere tecniche che evitino rubbing of the glans. In general, the first impression that the boys feel the new experience are not entirely pleasant, and most masturbation is considered a purely physical fact totally independent of emotional involvement because they lack the experience of falling upstream sexually experienced through masturbation , which are the cornerstone of adolescence. In practice during the teenage boys learn to associate sexuality and emotions connected with masturbation all'innamoramento, the so-called emotional masturbation. For children over 20 years now who have not lived the typical experiences of adolescence, the association between emotions and sexuality is not automatic, but is presented as something absolutely not granted. They say that the belated discovery of masturbation leads to a delayed adolescence, or to live the experiences and emotions of the Association of masturbation at an age now an adult. These are delicate moments of the evolution of a sexual and emotional guy, but unless they experience forms of rejection of sexuality, the so-called delayed adolescence results in 12/18 months time in which a progressive increase in the frequency of masturbation are the first associations between sexual fantasies and masturbation. For a while 'time affectivity and sexuality will seem more separate realities but with the passing of the months are integrated more and more and eventually reach the full integration of the two balls and tackling delayed adolescence in a typical adult sexuality, that is based on affection. Otherwise, I would say, and more complex the situation and boys who have no physical impediments to masturbation but have never practiced for other reasons. I emphasize that I do not want to talk about guys who have engaged in masturbation, but that the repressed but their kids who have never practiced. We have so far by the situations in which there may be non-mechanical physical problems (such as hypersensitivity of the glans) but hormone and let us pause to consider the guys who have had a normal sexual development, or who have regular wet dreams a sign of normal physiological functioning of the reproductive tract and let's stop the situations in which the non-disclosure by masturbation was psychological or environmental reasons . In these situations it is not easy to expect that the impediments are not by themselves. Some things should be kept in mind: these guys live in a situation of distress and tend to close more and more. The rejection of physical sexuality is understood almost as a personal characteristic and a moral value to which you should not give up but then these guys are living a form of sensitivity very strong emotional, replacement of sexuality.

It is this last element size bed in a conscious, which can start the discovery of physical sexuality in adulthood. In fact, these guys would need a very gradual approach to sexuality from their strong emotional dimension, which is certainly not easy to obtain. When these guys get brave and approach a boy or a girl are a source of a whole set of expectations and behaviors that are incomprehensible to them and even morally dangerous because they read in those behaviors a sexual purpose for which they do not understand the meaning and scope. I quote here an excerpt from an email in which a boy sets out the situation:

"There was a guy who seemed like a must, one that was not just headlines two-way, I tried to speak, but eventually I realized that it was like everyone else, my friend meant to him talk about his girlfriend and wanted me to speak my seat, I never had, I did not know and said he was puzzled, I asked him because he gave all this emphasis on sex and he told me it was obvious, I told him that for me was not obvious, then asked me if I liked girls and I said that I liked, but as friends and then told me that I was gay but it did not upset him really, but I told him that I never had fantasies gay sex and that living with a guy I like but as a friend, as I was with him, then began to look at me weird and then he asked me who I think when I masturbate but I told him that I do and I do not understand what people find us, and he is appalled. Then, this guy was all over, obviously you are scared but I did not understand why. "

In Another song that tells the boy his first contact with a girl:

"I tried with a girl, I was fine with her, told her many things and she me, all on msn, so we talked, it was very sweet affectionate, at one point I asked for a picture but I Did not I send, and we should be upset but I said I did well. We talked a lot, told me that I was not like other boys, which was sweet, which was fine with me and he wanted to be with me as long as possible. At one point, but after a long time, I asked her if she wanted to meet me and was happy, I thought I had found a true friend as I wanted. We met, we talked, then in the car she took her hand, was a beautiful thing, I liked it, then we kissed, I liked the beginning, it was a sweet thing, but then I did not like most, it seemed a reads a bit 'like what you see in the movies, so I told her I did not feel at ease and she said "Why? What have I done? "I replied that I was not sexually interested in her because I feel the girls that we do not need. She started to cry, fell out of the car and left, he blocked my msn contact and we did not feel any more. "

Questi esempi danno un’idea delle difficoltà che questi ragazzi incontrano. I ragazzi o le ragazze che si rapportano con loro danno per scontato che la loro visione della sessualità sia quella comune ma si tratta di una presunzione sbagliata. Ci sarebbe bisogno di un approccio molto più morbido in cui la dimensione sessuale possa essere messa da parte per lunghi periodi in modo da non apparire mai aggressiva. Riporto qui di seguito un brano di una mail di un ragazzo che ha scoperto la masturbazione a 23 anni e col quale ho avuto occasione di parlare assai spesso. Quel ragazzo erra arrivato a Progetto Gay nella presunzione che his lack of interest in girls could be caused by some form of homosexuality. In reality it was a boy who had never had the experience of masturbation because of a rigid education strongly internalized. After several attempts, similar to those reported in previous examples, he met a girl who is really in love with him, he is convinced, after much hesitation, to speak out with that girl, she was afraid of getting yet another rejection, but this is not state. The report is totally non-aggressive, the girl went on for months in an exclusively emotional but extremely serious. The boy has lost his job and girlfriend has always supported. After about a year and a half things have changed, while remaining with the girl he had to leave for work. Could be seen only on Saturdays and Sundays. I reproduce below a piece of mail when the boy informed me that you have overcome the problem and have begun to understand the meaning of masturbation and sexuality.

"Pro Hello, I think I got there, I think so. Well tonight I have a dream, something soft, sweet, nice, I missed like crazy, but it was a beautiful dream, is the first time I make a sexual dream, do not believe who knows what, caresses, kisses, things like that but the fact is that I came in my dreams and it was beautiful. This is the first time a pollution seems to me a beautiful thing. Anyways', is already high, but over here, can you imagine the rest, I made it! It seems to me one more thing a bit 'strange but is by no means repel, in reality it is true that it is a way to love someone! Pro, can not imagine how I feel happy! I sent a text message and I told him and he said that he feels happier than me. You say, will it last? I sure hope so. Honestly, I feel a little 'strange. Pro, I might as well have a family, maybe I run too, I guess I'll have to understand a lot of things, I really feel like a kid who discovers a new world! "

Unfortunately, situations like the one just described are not common. In essence, the sexuality in these situations must be conveyed through a profound emotional dimension. It seems clear that when a guy who lives these situations you do not win by discouragement and accepts the risk of telling the truth, the chances increase greatly. Being overcome by fear and self-closing door to the rejection of deep emotional experiences, overcoming fear is essential.

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