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MODELLI DI AFFETTIVITA' E SESSUALITA' GAY

Often people who are quite divorced from the reality of gay talk gay marriage or gay couples , simply extrapolating the field of gay models of affection and sexuality typical of the heterosexual world. It happens that the same gay are often forced to conform more or less consciously their behavior similar to heterosexual behavior. In fact models of affection and sexuality are not exportable straight world gay because while in reality dominated categories like hetero sexual complementarity, its procreative end and the social dimension of the couple's relationship, in reality dominated by gay groups such as gender equality , the orientation of the non-procreative sexuality and privacy. This post is to point out the originality of the patterns of affectivity and sexuality, gay straight comparison with the corresponding models.

Sessuocentrici models and models in widespread sexual

The different conceptions of the emotional life can be classified according to the role that they assume sexuality. There are models in which the sexual reproduction dominates to such an extent as to make the secondary even the choice of the partner, in other cases, the sexuality, seen as a key beyond the reproductive purposes, it is still the center of emotional life, which means that an interpersonal relationship plays an important meaning only when it leads to a sexual relationship, that loyalty is identified only with sexual fidelity and the relationship breaks down when the sexual intercourse is not più gratificante.

Alcune affermazioni tipiche di certi modelli di sessualità etero come: “lo scopo essenziale della sessualità è la nascita dei figli”, “la masturbazione è inammissibile perché significa sprecare il seme”, “il rapporto tra due persone dello stesso sesso non può essere un rapporto d’amore perché non può trasmettere la vita”, “la verginità è una virtù importantissima” e simili, sono indici di modelli sessuocentrici. Analogamente può dirsi quando si ritiene che un contatto sessuale etero non sia realmente gratificante quando manca la penetrazione e si afferma che tutto ciò che viene prima è soltanto una preparazione. Sono sempre in una dimensione sessuocentrica le sottolineature della mascolinità e della femminilità come ruoli ben definiti anche a livello sociale. La dimensione sessuocentrica della vita affettiva può portare a dare particolare enfasi al rapporto sessuale e quindi ad ansia di prestazione.

Nel diffondere modelli sessuocentrici un ruolo particolare compete alla pornografia che identifica la sessualità con i rapporti sessuali e diffonde, per imitazione, modelli di comportamento non spontaneo che possono essere profondamente condizionanti. Mi capita spesso di parlare con ragazzi non più giovanissimi cresciuti con una educazione o meglio con una diseducazione sessuale affidata esclusivamente alla pornografia. Il vero danno provocato a questi ragazzi dalla pornografia consiste nell’impedire o nel ritardare lo sviluppo di una vera sessualità affettiva.

I modelli sessuocentrici arrivano a diffondersi anche tra i gay proprio attraverso la pornografia. Molte caratteristiche dei modelli sessuocentrici etero sono assimilate acriticamente anche dai gay che non fanno che trascrivere quei modelli in chiave gay. Un antidoto potente contro i danni della pornografia è rappresentato dai modelli affettivi non sessuocentrici derivati dagli esempi della vita familiare. I ragazzi gay cresciuti in famiglie in cui dominavano modelli di sessualità diffusa (coccole, affettuosità) sono in un certo senso vaccinati contro le visioni sessuocentriche della pornografia.

transcription mechanical key gay models sessuocentrici leads straight to the kids not to do too much attention to their feelings but to consider only the fundamental reactions strictly sexual. I often talk to young people who attach importance to the technical understanding sexuality as a center of emotional life, typical in this respect are the situations of the guys who are focused entirely on their own sexual response, in these cases the technique leads ipervalutazione of sexuality sometimes neurotic reactions such as test their skills in sexual (sexual experiments) which can also occur on a repetitive and disturbing content on the edge of obsession. In these situations, a true rehabilitation would require a more emotional or affective re-education about sexuality which is possible but only with a partner who has a vision he sessuocentrica affectivity.

Affectivity but can also occur in a diffuse way, with features that are not sessuocentriche. This does not mean that there is no sexuality in the strict sense but only that this sexuality is a component of the emotional relationship but not its essence. The main difference between affection and sexuality sessuocentrica widespread is that a widespread sexuality permeates the entire behavior an emotional person and is not limited to sexual moments technically. Of course, sexuality is neither widespread nor straight, but gay is a way of thinking about sexuality, it remains that, from what I see, I have the impression that a gay couple's sexuality made public, in the absence of influences of pornography, is a spontaneous size, certainly not externally induced and not imitative. The meaning deeply emotional and rewarding that can have a hug for a gay guy is not related to the fact that the embrace may lead to a sexual relationship but from the size of warmth, intimacy takes on a dimension that embrace of sexuality diffusa.

Una conseguenza significativa della sessualità diffusa gay si ritrova nel confine tendenzialmente più labile tra amicizia e amore. Per un gay pensare ad una dimensione sessualizzata dell’amicizia non è necessariamente dirompente proprio perché la sessualità spesso non è vista come l’essenza del rapporto di coppia, in questo senso l’infedeltà episodica diventa tollerabile perché è intesa come un modo sessualizzato di dimostrare il proprio affetto ad un amico più che come un tentativo di costruire una coppia alternativa.

La coppia gay “possibile”

Vorrei dedicare la seconda parte di questo post al concetto di coppia gay as possible. By this we mean to indicate that a gay man can achieve 100% of its preferences in terms of married life is an uncommon event. Bait has a lot more choice and more freedom of action for the realization of a gay couple's life is linked to the possibility a priori unlikely that the guy that you love is gay.

When a gay boy in love with a straight guy, that is attracted in a strong and globally, both emotional and sexual, sooner or later must acknowledge that his desires are not realized at the same gay guy could arise and concrete opportunities to learn other gay guys and you can create a relationship with their "possible" this dimension of the pair remains, however, often apparently weakened by the fact that there are other guys too straight and I would say, almost always straight, the gay guy are definitely more attractive in terms of his sexual partner "as possible." On this basis it might automatically think of a couple of fragility. It really is not so, if the pair "can" does not fully satisfy either partner in terms of sexual desire, which can stay focused on other guys (partners impossible), it remains that this is a relationship "can " ossia reale contrapposto a desideri che sono irrealizzabili. Il rapporto di coppia in questi termini non può essere sessuocentrico e si modifica, pur mantenendo una dimensione sessuale, ponendo al centro una affettività-sessualità diffusa. È il caso classico del voler bene al proprio ragazzo in modo profondo considerandolo come un compagno di vita nel senso più serio del termine pur senza provare per lui una forte attrazione sessuale. In queste situazioni la sessualità si vive come un completamento del rapporto affettivo e non come un valore di per se determinante, si vive una sessualità affettiva di coppia e nello stesso tempo una masturbazione non dedicata al proprio compagno ma a un ragazzo “impossibile” verso il quale you feel sexually attracted to.

The mechanism I have described is typical of the gay and has a huge value in the process of personal growth as far away from schematic views of sexuality. I must stress that these relationships between couples are not second class compared to relationships in which sexual desire and emotions are in complete agreement, but are connected with those as the possible reality is the theoretical hypotheses. The biggest fear for a gay guy is not having a companion with whom to have sex but not being loved and the couple "can" respond to the emotional needs seriously and that is why kids who live on a "couple possible " are not frustrated, as you might think from the outside. It is clear that the vision sessuocentrica affectivity is incompatible with these situations.

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GAY SESSUALMENTE REPRESSI

This post is to point out the mechanism of repression of homosexuality.

Sexual orientation is not a choice but a matter of fact, it is not the place to ask what caused them, what concerns us here is that sexual orientation has nothing to do with the choices of an individual, straight, gay or bisexual is or is not but it certainly does not choose to be or not to be.

In dealing with issues related to sexual orientation is passed from unconsciousness to consciousness of being gay and then the acceptance of being gay, if they are not external factors disturbing the transition is gradual and non-traumatic and can be highly variable with the time pattern. There are guys that 14 years have fully accepted their homosexuality, and there are adult men who are unable to accept even 50 years and we will soon see why.

Factors that may affect the process towards the awareness and acceptance are many and vary widely depending on age and individual condition, we all slow down or prevent the acceptance of homosexuality factors and are therefore spontaneous repression of sexuality.

Before puberty it is improper to speak of homosexuality, the term has a specific meaning only after puberty when a boy begins to experience physical sexuality and discovers masturbation. This is where the first forms of repression of sexuality, both heterosexual and one of the gay, based on feelings of guilt related to masturbation. These are the years in which a boy sees something very private and masturbation forbidden and tries to carve out spaces that allow for privacy of sexual exploration not put at risk from disturbing elements. The moralistic religious awareness and education, which sees something morbid sexuality, can repress sexuality in the bud and tie it firmly to guilt. These mechanisms apply to all students, straight and gay, but while around 11/13 years for boys heterosexual peer group tends to have heterosexual sexuality, particularly in key hetero masturbation as a failure in Somehow you need to become large, and this phenomenon relieves the repressive capacity of faith-based mechanisms and strengthen the family and kids in a sense of belonging to the group, based on their sexuality is like that of other children, for boys gay peer group acts in the opposite direction because gay sexuality is heavily branded with epithets of various kinds. A gay guy does not acknowledge the sexual experience of his comrades and realize that while they can talk about their experiences and boast to be considered large for him, this possibility is ruled out. These are the terrible years of high school, probably the most unpleasant for a gay guy who has to realize that her sexuality is not only different from that of other children but is considered degrading and dirty. This fact often leads to radical forms of repression of gay sexuality of younger men, but only its visible manifestations. A 14 year old boy, however, explicitly does not court her a companion because it affects the social reaction to this, but sexuality is not gay masturbation is usually totally conditioned by social attitudes. I should note that in most cases not even on religious repression can lead to feelings of guilt in children younger than their source to be gay. The kids who go to church, confess that he had masturbated, masturbated with fantasies of having not gay, that they feel guilty as the act and not the fantasy that determines it. Many kids are so far in terms spontaneous, from considering homosexuality in itself a crime when they realize that the church condemns homosexuality remain perplexed. Basically I mean that homosexuality is discovered through masturbation after puberty is influenced by constraints that hamper the external manifestations but still can not blame the eyes of children.

So far we dealt with children who have lived their childhood and their pre-adolescence smoothly and without any lack of affection. The speech is certainly more complicated when children grow up in stressful situations or are subjected to trauma (watch scenes of violence, suffering physical violence from parte di familiari, essere coinvolti inconsapevolmente in attività sessuali da parte di adulti). Su queste situazioni, come su quelle dei ragazzi che manifestano forme significative di ansia o toni marcatamente depressivi già in età adolescenziale o che presentano disturbi caratterizzati da idee ricorrenti dalle quali non sembra possibile liberarsi, bisognerebbe allargare molto il discorso. Il periodo che va dagli 11 ai 14 anni è in realtà delicatissimo, si pongono le basi emotive e psicologiche della sessualità ed è bene che questo accada in un clima sereno, senza tensioni emotive e con degli esempi di rapporti affettivi familiari che possano essere punti di riferimento.

Ma lasciando da parte queste situazioni decisamente più complesse e chiediamoci perché i meccanismi repressivi della sessualità gay agiscono in modo più pesante sui ragazzi più grandi e sugli adulti che non sui ragazzi più giovani. Per dare una risposta a questa domanda dobbiamo tenere presente che un ragazzo giovanissimo va strutturando la propria sessualità e la costruisce senza bisogno di demolire nulla, per un ragazzo grande e per un adulto, che hanno già una sessualità strutturata, lasciare libero lo sviluppo della propria sessualità gay può richiedere un processo di destrutturazione della propria identità sessuale precedente, cioè della precedente coscienza di una diversa identità sexual. In other words, a big boy or an adult to accept his gay sexual identity has to demolish the concept of himself as a heterosexual that has to be able to replace with a different sense of themselves as gay and all that met considerable resistance.

generally to meet the stronger forms of repression of homosexuality is not the gay guys who have felt from the beginning but after those who have formed a consciousness of themselves as heterosexual are in terms of having to undermine much of the structure of their personality. In essence, the real mechanisms involved in suppression of homosexuality a tutela di una sessualità già strutturata in un altro modo. La domanda che sorge spontanea è però perché un gay possa finire per strutturare una sessualità etero, cioè per avere di se stesso un’immagine come di un sé etero? Qui il meccanismo non è repressivo e deriva in sostanza da un insieme di errori interpretativi nei quali si cade o si è indotti a cadere per il fatto che siamo immersi in una società che sottolinea i segnali di tipo etero e trascura del tutto quelli di tipo gay.

Faccio un solo esempio prendendo in considerazione due situazioni simmetriche, nella prima un ragazzo che si ritiene gay avverte pulsioni etero mentre the second a boy believed to heterosexual impulses warns gay. We will see if there can be no misinterpretation in both cases, the sexual repression works only in the second, that is for the guy who has always believed that test drives straight and gay.

A gay guy, that is, a guy who has a gay sex masturbation, which is in a sexual situation involving a girl, goes to the erection, sexual desire can try for that girl, can reach also to have sexual intercourse with her, even addictive. Based on the model of interpretation related to the "behavior" sexual snaps plea: "I can have sex with a girl so rewarding, so I'm straight!" This reasoning is comforting because, inter alia, shall release the boy from the complications that would be gay and is reassuring in terms of social acceptance. In underestimate masturbation gay sexuality in favor of heterosexual couples to identify their sexual orientation does not operate any form of repression.

If we consider a guy who has always felt straight, that is, with masturbation and with a couple sexuality consistently straight, and hypothesized that this guy starts to experience sexual attraction to another boy to the point of masturbation or even thinking about that boy to have sex with him, we'll automatically deduct the same: "I'm sexually attracted to a guy, so I'm gay!" because in this case deduction would be destabilizing, and should accept deconstruct the vision of himself as a heterosexual to replace it with a vision of themselves as gay. These are the typical situations in which triggered the repression of gay sexuality. The boy who thinks he's hetero guy who stops to attend the wakes of sexual responses because this way the risk of destabilizing their sexuality decreases, but as this usually is not enough, even forcibly stop masturbating because his gay masturbation would be key, which undermines the heterosexual sexual identity.

I want to emphasize a key element: repression of gay sexuality has two complementary aspects: the first is expressed in avoiding every occasion of sexual arousal in key gay and the second manifests itself in an intensified activity heterosexual sex at the level of torque, the latter mechanism often leads to neurotic reactions because it is not desired for reasons of sexual affection but related mechanisms confirmation of their sexual identity. In some cases, the repression of sexuality leads to irrevocable decisions as gay marriage, which is considered in these cases of homosexuality as a medicine, it makes no sense under any point of view. Homosexuality, however repressed, however, end up sooner or later to return to the surface.

add another important thing. A push forcefully toward heterosexuality gay guys who repress their homosexuality in favor of a possible relationship of couples and heterosexual marriage are often at the limit of their girls who do not have the faintest idea what homosexuality really is and who feel most ready to lead, or trying to encourage their children to exclusive heterosexuality on the basis of seductive women. These things, at first, seem to also be successful because the elimination of gay sexuality is compensated by a more intense and hetero sexuality is more socially accepted and encouraged that gives the feeling of being really straight. But by far the mechanism is worn and often the same girls who have encouraged their children to gay marriage find themselves in positions of stark contrast with their husbands they can not in any way accept homosexuality. A woman heterosexual married a gay man because he thinks that is gay or not is more, because it identifies the boy's sexual orientation with sexual behavior they see and not with the sexual desires that can not see, when she discovers that her husband is really gay marriage and that in a situation feels uncomfortable he gets angry with her husband a traitor of marriage, but the reality, if the guy said how things were before marriage and the girl came to his decision to marry the same often it is the responsibility of family members and characters of different types and not knowing anything about homosexuality are as trusted advisors in such a sensitive area.

a remark. From the repression of homosexuality tied to the mechanisms we have described above is only exits if the environment is favorable and if a gay man has the courage to say the truth, which is never a given. There are people who prefer to repress or perhaps not in fact have no choice. In any case you can not replace a repressed gay and trying to get him out of the sexual repression on the basis of our way of seeing things out of self-imposed sexual repression is not easy nor is it said that it nevertheless has a positive result if the conditions required.

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GAY LOVE AND DISCOMFORT

public and I get the following mail. I deleted only explicit references to places and circumstances that would jeopardize the privacy of individuals.

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Dear Project,

We've known for some time now, we've had our quarrels and our moments of serenity and me. During recent months I have happened to all the colors, and this made me think a lot.

Let me explain ... Do you remember that I had ordered a few months ago about your behavior? Yes, I said that it was not fair that you were to say that your work is useless, and indeed is a loss. Yes, I they felt betrayed by your statements and the fact that you had been around all that time, comforting and trying to provide means to deal with the distressing situation where you were, to no avail. As if my efforts are being used for nothing, as if in the end your selfishness was more important to the affection and respect that bound us all this time.

Good. Months have passed since those days, and I thought. Right now I am experiencing a situation in some ways "like" with a boy. I find myself talking to him via sms or msn, the phone never even less we met. A "relationship" that lasted for about 3 months.

This guy does not want to see me, because he is afraid that things would be worse, he's afraid that the end is good for nothing, has no incentive viable. He says he wants to die.
He has been close, and he says he opened his heart to me and told me that actually likes me ... But without an affection that we can meet that fate can never have?
few months, in theory, if everything goes as it should, I'll have to transfer to another city, away from the remote fragment Tuscany where he lives ... and I asked him again for one last time if you would live with me, even at the cost of having to keep working on the double. That is my family se ne va al nord, ma io per lui sarei restato volentieri qui sebbene sia la sola ragione per la quale me ne starei quaggiù. Perché non ho altro quaggiù, non ho amici né altre forme forti di serenità.

Lui continua a dirmi che il suo proposito di autoannientamento non è stato rimosso, nonostante l'affetto che prova per me.

Ho provato, giuro che ho provato in ogni modo possibile di chiedergli il perché. Di offrirgli un'alternativa piacevole ad una lenta morte da vegetale.

Niente... Insomma: io ancora I love it! And to hell with what they all say that "looking for a guy to not be alone" ... Nonsense! I wanted to build a future with him, living a true love (maybe forever).

I always thought that love is shared, both giving and receiving on the other hand, is building a peace and happiness with each other. What's wrong with wanting to be happy together? Why should you think that you want to be with someone is not necessarily a symptom of not being able to be alone? [And I say this for all those who believe that] I'm used to being alone, and since I was little that Left completely alone and I no longer have deep affections (now I am 22 years old). In short, it is not a question of loneliness, is that I really wanted to be comfortable with a person as beautiful as this guy, making him feel good too ... I wanted both of them could be happy.

Oh well, just to give a logical conduit between the first part of the email in which I recalled the past with you, Project, and the second with this guy, I wanted to tell everyone something that I think is very important (perhaps often underestimated, because taken for granted):

1) Try to adopt forms of "weak thought", that is not granite, which can easily revise their beliefs to those of others, going against those of others. Specifically my situation I take the case of the boy: "What's it cost to try? At least try to be happy ?"... because after all the evidence that I gave him love and sincerity, he could be happy with me ...

2) I even asked why they "insisted on putting me in front of his affection for his fears ... Well! True love should be stronger than these weaknesses, as well as the selfishness more stupid (like not wanting to change at least a little 'own way of seeing things). I have always been the idea that "love is stronger than death as well, since it survives." And if nothing else, "Love should be stronger than pride."

always to return the boy, seeing that there are, I also said that to me any relationship with him would be well. E 'affection, or love in its purest form, what binds me to him. I said this mainly because he kept telling me that for him "love is a weakness" and "I do not think that if we were together things andrebbero meglio, né che durerebbero"... Insomma, l'ho fatto perché gli voglio bene, lo voglio vicino a me, ma anche per lui! Per farlo stare più a suo agio, visto che rifugge l'amore. E non c'è stato nulla da fare nemmeno qui.

Mi sono impuntato sul vederlo almeno una volta nella mia vita prima di andarmene per sempre. Non ho intenzione di chiudere una faccenda così umana in un modo così freddo come l'sms.
Insomma... quello che dovevo dire a tutti l'ho detto, e credo di non aver sbagliato nel mio pensiero né con lui o altre persone ancora. Se volete dirmi qualche cosa fate pure, sia critiche che consigli che riflessioni. Qualsiasi cosa.

Everything is welcome, and thank you already now for the moral support. Because I swear I'm overwhelmed by all these efforts do not see them and then never even met and never fail to reach a modicum of serenity.

Please Project, submit it (cut what you do not like, but leave intact at least the gist) ...

Hello.

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Hello,

first resentful and I'm glad to see that you have not lost the desire to prove yourself, that item of mail "go on the pitch" I liked it very much. It is true that when I spent time Gray has sought to do everything to make me go over but then you're lapping disappointed that I was led to see things mostly negative. At times I also heard you on a very negative tone that I was worried, but I see this message of another kind, you understand that there are true feelings behind that you have given very serious reasons, we see that you get involved by feelings, which is the only thing that can give serenità. Non pensare solo a se stessi e ai propri problemi ma potersi dedicare ad un’altra persona migliora la qualità della vita, il fatto è che poi scattano dei meccanismo incontrollabili e ci si aspetta una risposta, ci si aspetta dall’altra parte un coinvolgimento simmetrico che purtroppo è molto raro, quando poi dall’altra parte trovi toni realmente depressi sei portato a intensificare gli sforzi perché quella depressione sia superata ma spesso vedi che tutti i tuoi sforzi sono inutili, lo dico perché è capitato anche a me parecchie volte, proprio quando tu hai cercato di farmi vedere le cose in una luce più positiva, ma ti devo dire una cosa, che sembra paradossale ma qualche volta è vera, the happiness of another person to whom we may well not take very much depend on us but other people and other situations that can really change things. It is very difficult to accept such a thing because the good of others does not correspond with ours, in such cases the most frequent responses are the net: either you're with me or not we feel, but it is here that it makes sense that the choice of weak attitude to which you made reference, sometimes accept low profiles is really for the good of others, which must feel a presence nearby and when they feel the need but should not feel to put narrow. Of course, if you could think of happiness di quel ragazzo magari lontano da te ma alla sua felicità fuori dalla depressione, allora ti sarebbe più facile accettare anche un ruolo di basso profilo, al momento questo non è lo scenario che ti si presenta e quindi tendi ad essere comunque presente e credo sia inevitabile, ma il basso profilo spesso ha un valore inestimabile, msn, gli sms, non sono banalità e quando trovi una persona che non si lascerebbe coinvolgere ad altri livelli, questi mezzi di comunicazione hanno un’importanza enorme. La serenità di fondo di una persona dipende in gran parte dalla consapevolezza di essere importante per qualcuno. Si può essere importanti in tanti modi, si può addirittura vivere insieme, ma si può essere importanti, e dico really important in the sense of the term, even as a reference point when they feel the need. I also happen to speak often with boys tend to be depressed and did not seem unrivet an inch from a position of total negativity and this caused me considerable anxiety and concern, but then on the one hand, the contacts are diluted and the ' have begun to emerge even more positive elements. My level of anxiety and concern about these guys is decreased and the real dialogue is not all lost. I understand that for you it is a different role and accept a low profile to a boy when you're in love is difficult, but this is a way of loving.

A big hug.

Project

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Promiscuous' GAY AND MODELS OF SOCIALIZATION

This post is dedicated to the analysis of promiscuous gay sex. Turning on the Internet is easy imbattersi in affermazioni concernenti la promiscuità sessuale gay, dai blog ultracattolici, che citando San Pio X ritengono l’omosessualità colpa gravissima, seconda per gravità solo all’omicidio volontario, e affermano che la promiscuità gay grida vendetta al cospetto di Dio, a studi che hanno almeno l’apparenza della scientificità. Ho provato a leggere un po’ di saggi e di statistiche in proposito ma devo dire chiaramente che spesso sanno più di delirio che di indagine scientifica. Per esempio, in “A comparative demographic and sexual profile of older homosexually active men”, uno studio di Paul Van de Ven  pubblicato sul Journal of Sex Research, si legge che il 21,6% gay seniors say they have had in life between 101 and 500 partners and a more than 10% claimed to have had even more than 1000. There are also fortunate to have jobs that other levels of seriousness, as the book-investigation "modern homosexuality" by sociologists at the University of Bologna Marzio Barbagli and Asher Colombo (Princeton, 2007). This study analyzed a sample of 3502 men and women of all ages come to the conclusion that 48% of gays has had fewer than 20 partners in a lifetime given almost equates to that of heterosexual males. I must stress that the study by Barbagli and Colombo refers to gay dichiarati. In effetti, quello che rilevo da un osservatorio privilegiato come Progetto Gay, che si occupa soprattutto di gay non dichiarati, non fa che restringere ulteriormente quel numero di 20 partner che lo studio di Barbagli e Colombo attribuisce ai gay dichiarati ad un numero orientativamente compreso tra 5 e 10. Questo significa che per i gay dichiarati la promiscuità sessuale è di fatto identica a quella degli etero e per i gay non dichiarati è significativamente minore. Da dove viene allora la legenda metropolitana che identifica i gay come molto più promiscui degli etero? Conoscendo il mondo dei gay non dichiarati più a fondo (ma credo che sotto questo aspetto tra i gay dichiarati le cose siano praticamente le stesse), rilevo that the forms of socialization of the gay men are different from the forms of socialization of the gay straight because for a distinction between friendship and love is certainly less clear. In heterosexual relationships, traditionally, they assumed certain rules of behavior, first, that when couples who had had a sexual relationship broke up the boy and the girl could not stay friends. This rule, which begins to find many exceptions even among straight, is rarely followed in the gay world, not least because, among gay is not declared, it is difficult to meet and lose contact with a gay guy is not considered a good thing. Sexuality is not even considered the item determinant of a relationship. The boys usually maintain good relationships with their ex and they continue to haunt even after their relationship is over. This is a fairly common behavior in a high percentage of gay, but the external manifestations of this behavior are very often been seen as a form of a continuation of previous sexual relationship with the partner even after the establishment of a new sexual relationship of couples. There is also a further motivation, in reality very specifically gay, which leads to the maintenance of a loving relationship with their former sexual partners and this is the fact that in several cases, given the difficulty for gays (particularly non-declared) to meet is created with a certain frequency of sexual relations among young couples who actually have significantly different emotional worlds. Many kids feel the weight of loneliness, fear of having to go through life waiting for a guy who can represent for them the best but at the same time they fear that the boy may never arrive ideal, because for them the opportunity to meet other gay guys is not declared, at least in their expectations, rather remote. Hence the idea of \u200b\u200bnot waiting too and try to live a married life even with the assumption that it may experience will disappear for many different reasons. This means that many sexual relationships between boys gay is not born from the idea of \u200b\u200bplaying with sexuality, as people often believe, but by the need to fill emotional voids, to still create a couple without too much delay. You then choose between what exists because the anticipation of what exists at present is stressful and leads to depression. With these assumptions, it is not rare that the reports are only partially satisfactory and that the long-transposition of the emotional needs in key sexual, focusing exclusively on the couple's relationship, shows all its limits. I mean, at least at the emotional promiscuity is indeed a crucial requirement in any case because the couple's relationship covers all the emotional needs of children. This is true in heterosexual couples, and a fortiori in gay couples. From the outside this is interpreted as sexual promiscuity, and this interpretation, internalized by gay guys, not only leads them to real forms of sexual promiscuity but also forces them to close in terms of focusing on the emotional relationship of the couple all their expectations, which loads the couple relationship of roles that did not substitute for responsibility. Improving the social lives of gay men, the opportunity to build friendships and to meet other gay guys would reduce fears for the future, would lead to choices that couples are actually forms of escape from loneliness and emphasize the normality of being gay, with beneficial effects also on the lives of the couple. The myth of gay promiscuity is still one of the reasons that make problematic the acceptance of homosexuality. I realize that this post goes against the tide of common interpretations and that is a poor thing, but at least one attempt to tell the truth of the matter.

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Hallo Project,

I’m a 25 y. o. guy. I came to U.S. few months ago in order to reach my goal and get specialized in high energy physics. I came from Eastern Europe and I was used to speak English during my university training. I think my English could sound very strange to native English speakers. I’m sorry, I don’t speak Italian al all. I got in touch with Gay Project only reading the English blog “Not only gay”. I got there by chance searching for “Maurice” the novel by Forster on Google. At that time I was searching for novels to read in English in order to improve my reading and my vocabulary. Well, that’s why I got in touch with your blog. Clearly I like better improve my English reading gay novels because I’m gay. On “Not only gay” I got your novel “Only seven days”, something that troubled me deeply. In my home country I had an excellent education at all but I missed the very essential thing. Basically I was forced to deal alone with my homosexuality, because I've never had anyone to talk seriously about these things. Up to 24 y. o., I simply removed the problem and I pretended that there wasn’t any problem. I was always studying, I had to think of anything else and so I walked away from the idea of being gay, or rather I was trying to convince myself more and more to be straight. In my country I had a girlfriend and I told her again and again that we could not get married because I would have gone abroad to study and she would not have been able to follow.

I now begin to understand that in fact my desire to go to study abroad was largely due to the idea to get away from her. She is a girl that I admire but I don’t love. I think if I get the chance, I'll stay to live in the U.S.. For the moment I still have much to study and study hard. But I'm starting to open my eyes about myself and about life that I have done until now. I do not like pornography, I'd really like to talk about homosexuality in a serious way. As I told you I do not speak Italian but I tried to read the English translation of your posts through Google translator, it’s not the best but at least I could follow your arguments.

Well, now you understand how I came up with "gay project”. I have many things to ask, but first I must tell you a little about me. Basically my sexuality was just straight up to 23. I tell you “basically”, because I had a girl and had normal sexual intercourse with her but also, despite everything, I was still attracted to guys, I did not want to accept it, but it was so. I have come to deny even the most obvious things, even my sexual desire, I have completely removed the masturbation because my fantasies ran toward the boys and I could not accept such a thing. I was taught that sex was a bad thing, dirty, ugly, and I could not think otherwise. I read that many guys have lived similar things and I found myself in some of your posts.

Now I'm slowly discovering my sexuality but everything remains at the level of masturbation, I do not think in any case I could have sexual intercourse with a boy, it's as if his physical contact disgusts me. And then there's the other big problem, I have never been in love with a guy, with the girls I am comfortable with the guys I feel deeply uncomfortable and I cannot see a boy as a love object but only as an object of sexual interest. I do not know if this situation may change over time, but now I'm 25 and I fear that things will not change. I have few friends here in the U.S., I have colleagues who are very serious people, but they are all straight, or so it seems, and I don’t think I could talk freely with them of my things. What can I expect from the future? just study and never affective and sexual life? Now I'm working hard to specialize and to find work as soon as possible but I also want to start living my life from other points of view. I see that others live their lives peacefully, but I think I have only to study because I cannot live things I still dream. When I go to bed I dream of hugging a guy, a guy who was my boyfriend, but I have no boyfriend and dreams remain dreams. I don’t want to start looking for a guy here, don’t even know the language well and outside the university I still feel like a foreigner.

I think you understood my problem well enough, if you can, answer me in private. If you want, publish this email as well, but if you can, try to answer me by mail.

A hug.

B. K.

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Hi, my nickname is project in August 2007, I started "Project Gay" Italian "Progetto Gay, something I can not even define, without community association, organization structure and unstaffed, or just a changing group of friends, in fact about some websites (forums, chat and blog ) There are now a small community of gay people. Nothing to do with cats or sex dating sites, guys only respond to messages and chat in the forum. Now, our IRC chat has been internationalized and anyone can join the chat from around the world. We are Italian guy and we used to chat in Italian, but we can also speak English or French if necessary and also English, very similar to Italian in the vocabulary and grammar. No problem if you write in your own language because the online chat allows you to translate from Italian into your language and vice versa. On our pages with links to the chat you pouvez trouver l'horloge avec le temps de Rome. Vous pouvez trouver des gens sur le chat dans l’après-midi et dans la nuit jusqu'à deux heures après minuit, heure de Rome. Nous aimerions profiter de bavarder avec des amis de partout dans le monde et si vous êtes également intéressés à apprendre la langue italienne parlée vous avez une bonne chance d'améliorer votre italien en bavardant avec des amis gay italiens. Nous vous attendons! A bientôt sur le Chat de Projet Gay!

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Ciao, il mio nickname è il project, nell’agosto 2007 ho dato avvio a "Progetto Gay", qualcosa che non riesco nemmeno a definire, comunità senza associazione, organizzazione senza personale e struttura, o semplicemente un gruppo di amici variabile, infatti intorno ad alcuni siti web (forum, chat e blog) ora esiste una piccola comunità di persone gay. Niente a che vedere con le chat o i siti di incontri, solo ragazzi che si incontrano in chat e scrivono sul forum. Ora il nostro servizio di chat IRC è stato internazionalizzato e tutti possono partecipare alla chat da tutto il mondo. Siamo ragazzi italiani e di solito chattiamo in italiano, ma possiamo anche parlare inglese French or English if necessary and is very similar to Italian vocabulary and grammar. No problem if you write in your own language, because the chat provides online translation from Italian into your language and vice versa. On our pages with links to the chat you can find the clock with the time of Rome. You can find people chatting in the afternoon and evening until two o'clock in the morning, Rome time. We would like to chat with friends from around the world and even if you're interested in learning Italian language spoken you have a good chance to improve your Italian Italian gay chatting with friends. We are waiting! See you on Project Gay Chat!