This post is dedicated to the analysis of promiscuous gay sex. Turning on the Internet is easy imbattersi in affermazioni concernenti la promiscuità sessuale gay, dai blog ultracattolici, che citando San Pio X ritengono l’omosessualità colpa gravissima, seconda per gravità solo all’omicidio volontario, e affermano che la promiscuità gay grida vendetta al cospetto di Dio, a studi che hanno almeno l’apparenza della scientificità. Ho provato a leggere un po’ di saggi e di statistiche in proposito ma devo dire chiaramente che spesso sanno più di delirio che di indagine scientifica. Per esempio, in “A comparative demographic and sexual profile of older homosexually active men”, uno studio di Paul Van de Ven pubblicato sul Journal of Sex Research, si legge che il 21,6% gay seniors say they have had in life between 101 and 500 partners and a more than 10% claimed to have had even more than 1000. There are also fortunate to have jobs that other levels of seriousness, as the book-investigation "modern homosexuality" by sociologists at the University of Bologna Marzio Barbagli and Asher Colombo (Princeton, 2007). This study analyzed a sample of 3502 men and women of all ages come to the conclusion that 48% of gays has had fewer than 20 partners in a lifetime given almost equates to that of heterosexual males. I must stress that the study by Barbagli and Colombo refers to gay dichiarati. In effetti, quello che rilevo da un osservatorio privilegiato come Progetto Gay, che si occupa soprattutto di gay non dichiarati, non fa che restringere ulteriormente quel numero di 20 partner che lo studio di Barbagli e Colombo attribuisce ai gay dichiarati ad un numero orientativamente compreso tra 5 e 10. Questo significa che per i gay dichiarati la promiscuità sessuale è di fatto identica a quella degli etero e per i gay non dichiarati è significativamente minore. Da dove viene allora la legenda metropolitana che identifica i gay come molto più promiscui degli etero? Conoscendo il mondo dei gay non dichiarati più a fondo (ma credo che sotto questo aspetto tra i gay dichiarati le cose siano praticamente le stesse), rilevo that the forms of socialization of the gay men are different from the forms of socialization of the gay straight because for a distinction between friendship and love is certainly less clear. In heterosexual relationships, traditionally, they assumed certain rules of behavior, first, that when couples who had had a sexual relationship broke up the boy and the girl could not stay friends. This rule, which begins to find many exceptions even among straight, is rarely followed in the gay world, not least because, among gay is not declared, it is difficult to meet and lose contact with a gay guy is not considered a good thing. Sexuality is not even considered the item determinant of a relationship. The boys usually maintain good relationships with their ex and they continue to haunt even after their relationship is over. This is a fairly common behavior in a high percentage of gay, but the external manifestations of this behavior are very often been seen as a form of a continuation of previous sexual relationship with the partner even after the establishment of a new sexual relationship of couples. There is also a further motivation, in reality very specifically gay, which leads to the maintenance of a loving relationship with their former sexual partners and this is the fact that in several cases, given the difficulty for gays (particularly non-declared) to meet is created with a certain frequency of sexual relations among young couples who actually have significantly different emotional worlds. Many kids feel the weight of loneliness, fear of having to go through life waiting for a guy who can represent for them the best but at the same time they fear that the boy may never arrive ideal, because for them the opportunity to meet other gay guys is not declared, at least in their expectations, rather remote. Hence the idea of \u200b\u200bnot waiting too and try to live a married life even with the assumption that it may experience will disappear for many different reasons. This means that many sexual relationships between boys gay is not born from the idea of \u200b\u200bplaying with sexuality, as people often believe, but by the need to fill emotional voids, to still create a couple without too much delay. You then choose between what exists because the anticipation of what exists at present is stressful and leads to depression. With these assumptions, it is not rare that the reports are only partially satisfactory and that the long-transposition of the emotional needs in key sexual, focusing exclusively on the couple's relationship, shows all its limits. I mean, at least at the emotional promiscuity is indeed a crucial requirement in any case because the couple's relationship covers all the emotional needs of children. This is true in heterosexual couples, and a fortiori in gay couples. From the outside this is interpreted as sexual promiscuity, and this interpretation, internalized by gay guys, not only leads them to real forms of sexual promiscuity but also forces them to close in terms of focusing on the emotional relationship of the couple all their expectations, which loads the couple relationship of roles that did not substitute for responsibility. Improving the social lives of gay men, the opportunity to build friendships and to meet other gay guys would reduce fears for the future, would lead to choices that couples are actually forms of escape from loneliness and emphasize the normality of being gay, with beneficial effects also on the lives of the couple. The myth of gay promiscuity is still one of the reasons that make problematic the acceptance of homosexuality. I realize that this post goes against the tide of common interpretations and that is a poor thing, but at least one attempt to tell the truth of the matter.
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